No Strings Attached:
Part Two: De-cluttering
Sometimes we have to re-organize ourselves as individuals. In order to do this, we require a fresh slate of beginnings. Each new day you are granted and blessed to see is an opportunity to become better, it means your journey has yet to be completed and your progress is just getting started.
It is time for you to take a moment after breaking to de-clutter yourself. Have you ever felt in certain moments that you were consumed with so much, and even too much? This is a sign that you are in need of cleansing yourself of all unwanted things, and the things you no longer need. When you are consumed with too many things at once, you can become toxic internally and externally.
The unwanted, neglectful, and negative entities that attempt to plague you affect your value. Those things in return affect the love you need for yourself. You have to clean; otherwise you will remain in turmoil of chaos. Detoxify internally as well as externally. You must first de-clutter internally to know your value and worth. The external portion de-clutters when you have molded yourself more equipped to your value as a person.
Here are some of the following ways to de-clutter:
- Spend time alone– There is a difference in isolation and being alone. Being alone is being with self for an intentional purpose. You learn the most about yourself when it is just you and the space you are in. There is no room for error or interference, just you, space, and opportunity.
- Feedback- Sometimes we need feedback from others, but it is important to be receptive. Understand that self- view is not the only view. As humans it is important that we are coherent to different perspectives and views. It allows for growth and substance. However do not conflict this notion, we should not care “too” much, otherwise we will never be true to ourselves. However, feedback and viewpoints are important in further molding ourselves and evolving through coherence and being open-minded.
- Intimate circle- Identify the people you care for, and the people who care for you. Surrounding yourself with people who are “for” you like you are “for” them will impact your de-cluttering. By “for”, it means people intended and introduced into your life purposefully. These are the people who want you to become the best version of yourself and want the best for you out of life. You will recognize these people at the pit of your worst; if they are still ever present do not steer them any different. Allow them to be there for you.
- Removal- Remove what is not healthy for you. This can be relationships, personal possessions, attitudes/behaviors, or habits. Space for growth is neither available nor present due to the amount of space being taken by what must be removed. These are not bad people or things, they are just not meant for you. They were meant for reasons, but not longevity. The removal of certain relationships/people or things may allow not only for you to grow, but for them to grow as well. The best love is giving someone what they need, not what they want.
Give yourself time to de-clutter, wipe away the smudges, dust, and debris that has been collected from hoarding away so many things. Minimize yourself to make room for self-love to work its way through the cracks and crevices of your mind, body, and soul. Make room for love to enter where it needed to be all along.