Breakthrough: Faith in the Turmoil

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One moment everything is fine, then it all goes wrong. It is like someone took a stray piece of thread and slowly pulled, unraveling everything to its demise. It becomes a chain reaction of unfortunate events, circumstances, and crumbling. It never stops, until an abrupt moment of hitting a bed of rocks. At this point, as human beings we feel this is what the end feels like: abrupt, forthcoming, and intense. This is what rock bottom feels like, it feels intense upon impact. We as human beings are never really prepared for it, and although we know it is coming we doubt its capabilities.

In our situation and circumstance of spiraling turmoil, we often think that we are invincible, because we have withstood the impact of this spiral of control for so long. But rock bottom is a wakeup call, it is what yanks us back to reality, it is our ultimatum. Rock bottom is where the spiral ends, but where the hole caves in and we become trapped. Desolate. This cave or hole that we get stuck in, gives us an ultimatum. Although this phase does indeed humble us, we will either rise or crumble. Each of us individually cope with being gracefully broken different. Before broken we are collapsing, it’s a type of “falling” that feels endless. It is when we get to points and spaces in our life where we always fear where bottom is ending. We unravel before the breakthrough ever begins, because it we feel too deep in the madness.

We unravel under pressure, but our breakthrough is where we find our resolution. When we as individuals reach our low, when we feel there is nothing left to give, when we feel it cannot get any worse, and we are left in dark spaces what do we take from these experiences? But despite where that dark space is, there is always something we are left with. It is where we make our discovery of the changes that must com, or the effort needed to advance our progress for the better. If you have faith the size of a mustard seed, small enough to fit in your hands enough for you to carry you can get through anything. Having faith through your turmoil is where your breakthrough begins. Having hope that if you do unravel into what may feel like heaps of threads that may take what feels like forever to piece together again, makes capable. It makes you resilient, that despite anything your breakthrough is coming.

 

No Strings Attached: Unconditional Self Love Part Three

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No Strings Attached:

Unconditional Self-Love

Part Three: Forgiveness

There are many things that we have yet to detach ourselves from, things that we have yet to forgive. These negative components or attributes latch unto us in a dormant way, and we become susceptible to the pain that we have yet to deal with because we refuse to. There is a difference between moving on and moving forward, and at times we confuse the two. We are unfamiliar with the adequate process of letting go, which yields us to assess the easiest coping mechanism which is refusing to forgive. When you refuse to forgive, you cheat yourself out of growth. We as human beings have to love life enough to forgive people, situations, and circumstances that have affected us. We also have to love ourselves enough to forgive ourselves.

The absence of self-love often involves lack of forgiveness. Our humanness involves imperfections in need of progress, evolvement, experience, and molding. These areas involve learning, acknowledgment, and awareness. But at times we are not coherent to our growing process, which causes us to not be receptive. When we hold grudges with other people, circumstances, and ourselves we dissolve. As individuals we sometimes think: How can I forgive them? Why should I forgive them? And sometimes we also think: How can I forgive myself? Why should I forgive myself? Do I deserve to be forgiven?

You must make peace with yourself, and acknowledge your whole being. You will have to make peace with yourself many times. Once you make peace with yourself, then you can make peace with others, and then you can make peace with your situations. Then after, you can gather the pieces of your life again you resume. And each time you relapse, and resent yourself, forgive yourself. God forgives you because he loves you. People who love you forgive you, because they love. Now all you have left is for you to love you.

 

 

 

Time Framing: Your Time

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“Your time is neither right nor wrong, it is necessary…”

There is constantly the consideration of time, it is an entity that we as humans constantly dwell and contemplate. Time is such a valuable component in our lives, but we do not view it adequately. We invest a large amount of our energy wondering and worrying about timing within our lives. It surrounds us in each and everything we do; we have to consider it in every way. Time overwhelms us because: there is never enough, there is too much, it feels right, it feels wrong, reassuring, or uncertain.

Time centers and inserts itself in our choices, our plans, and everywhere in which it plays a role. One main discrepancy we often face is the comparison of timing with the timing of others. It is portrayed as if we are competing with making things happen; time framing everything before we lose it. But in reality we are not really competing with others nor time, we are just trying to keep up with it. We become afraid of being left behind by time, by people, or opportunities. So we compare and contrast ourselves with others thinking, “Why am I behind when..?”

  • We should be at the same place.
  • We started at around the same time.
  • We performed the same tasks.
  • We do the same thing(s).

Or we consider “What could have been..?”

  • If I had change my approach.
  • If I had not made this mistake.
  • If I had listened and taken the initiative.
  • If I had took the opportunity while it was there.
  • If I did what he, she, or they did.

Would it be different? The answer is no, it probably would not have turned out any differently. Time never stops going, it continues, it comes when it must, and leaves when it has to. Time does not empathize with expectations, it empathizes with reality. Time is unlimited when abundant, and limited when fated. It is not perfect, but is necessary for our journey. It is different for everyone, because our journeys are not the same. We as individuals may have similarities in our journeys, but one main thing we differ with is timing. Our detours differ, our steps and precautions are considered differently, our plans and initiatives differ, as well as our circumstances. Where we each are, at this moment is where we were meant to be. It is not right or wrong timing, it is your time. It is fitting, whether understood or not.

Consider where you are now, and understand where you are. Become aware and familiar. Trust in your process and timing, and avoid the comparisons of the timing of others. Your time is coming, and comes when it must.

The Gray Area: Finding Your Purpose

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There are periods in our lives when we feel incomplete. Incomplete in a way that the rest of our life journey remains unclear. Remains vague and imaginative, where we are ill prepared. Recollect on every moment you have fulfilled an obligation, a task, a goal, or overcome a stable hurdle. That is when you reach the, “What now?” After investing energy into things, situations, and people and reaching a place of contentment and completion, what happens after that? What is your next step, what is your next obligation, task, goal, or even your next hurdle? We at times do not grant ourselves time to ponder in the gray area, which is why we often do not understand the importance of being tranquil. The absence of tranquility is the absence of trust, understanding, and patience.

The gray area is an indefinite existence, it is somewhat like “floating in between” reality now and what reality will later be. The gray area is the period of some of the following things:

  • Going through the motions of daily living.
  • Having a plan, but not acting upon it.
  • Having a plan, acting upon it, but it remains unfulfilled.
  • Feeling unaccomplished or unattainable

This period that you are in, or have been in whether less or more frequently is not your imagination, it’s not a myth, but it it is indeed mental. It’s dwindling in a place of uncertainty with your surroundings, your identity, or your purpose. As human beings we desire to be purposeful and fulfilled in life, we desire for meaning. But we encounter gray areas that hinder us in the process. We then realize we have spent so time searching for meaning, that we never to a moment to buffer. Hindering the process of our desire to grow.

How do we stop floating in between? What better way than to trust in the presence of uncertainty. The way in which we approach uncertainty, determines the way we process it and the way we take initiative. Acknowledge your gray. Acknowledge it’s significance of becoming more familiar with yourself, others, and your life. It’s a fearful process, it’s conflicting, but it’s important. At times we need a period of reflection and buffering to acknowledge the possibilities.

No Strings Attached: Part Two

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No Strings Attached:

Unconditional Self-Love

Part Two: De-cluttering

Sometimes we have to re-organize ourselves as individuals. In order to do this, we require a fresh slate of beginnings. Each new day you are granted and blessed to see is an opportunity to become better, it means your journey has yet to be completed and your progress is just getting started.

It is time for you to take a moment after breaking to de-clutter yourself. Have you ever felt in certain moments that you were consumed with so much, and even too much? This is a sign that you are in need of cleansing yourself of all unwanted things, and the things you no longer need. When you are consumed with too many things at once, you can become toxic internally and externally.

The unwanted, neglectful, and negative entities that attempt to plague you affect your value. Those things in return affect the love you need for yourself. You have to clean; otherwise you will remain in turmoil of chaos. Detoxify internally as well as externally. You must first de-clutter internally to know your value and worth. The external portion de-clutters when you have molded yourself more equipped to your value as a person.

Here are some of the following ways to de-clutter:

  • Spend time alone– There is a difference in isolation and being alone. Being alone is being with self for an intentional purpose. You learn the most about yourself when it is just you and the space you are in. There is no room for error or interference, just you, space, and opportunity.
  • Feedback- Sometimes we need feedback from others, but it is important to be receptive. Understand that self- view is not the only view. As humans it is important that we are coherent to different perspectives and views. It allows for growth and substance. However do not conflict this notion, we should not care “too” much, otherwise we will never be true to ourselves. However, feedback and viewpoints are important in further molding ourselves and evolving through coherence and being open-minded.
  • Intimate circle- Identify the people you care for, and the people who care for you. Surrounding yourself with people who are “for” you like you are “for” them will impact your de-cluttering. By “for”, it means people intended and introduced into your life purposefully. These are the people who want you to become the best version of yourself and want the best for you out of life. You will recognize these people at the pit of your worst; if they are still ever present do not steer them any different. Allow them to be there for you.
  • Removal- Remove what is not healthy for you. This can be relationships, personal possessions, attitudes/behaviors, or habits. Space for growth is neither available nor present due to the amount of space being taken by what must be removed. These are not bad people or things, they are just not meant for you. They were meant for reasons, but not longevity. The removal of certain relationships/people or things may allow not only for you to grow, but for them to grow as well. The best love is giving someone what they need, not what they want.

Give yourself time to de-clutter, wipe away the smudges, dust, and debris that has been collected from hoarding away so many things. Minimize yourself to make room for self-love to work its way through the cracks and crevices of your mind, body, and soul. Make room for love to enter where it needed to be all along.