No Strings Attached:

Unconditional Self-Love

Part One: Dealing With Your Broken

If you noticed, sometimes it takes something broken for a breakthrough to arise. It sounds ironic, that something drastic must occur or that someone must have hit their breaking point to conquer the problem. We do not look at self-love originally as a problem; we view it as a part of our lifestyle. It’s involved in our behaviors and our words. These actions, words, and thoughts we possess that are negligent to our image and the perception we have of ourselves. They become things that we have adapted to, they become “us”.

Every person has a breaking point, but we do not revel in this. We frown at the idea of “breaking” because, society around us has painted the scenario and implanted the thought that broken is not beautiful, desirable, or loved. The idea of broken has been changed into the following: unattainable, undesirable, unfixable, and hopeless. These fixated terms slope the way we view ourselves, it diminishes our love for our existence. Here is the message I hope resonates with you after your breakdown:

  • Diminish Suppression: Do not deprive yourself of being set free and lifted of burdens and constraints. We as humans are not equipped to inhibiting ourselves and concealing our attitudes and emotions beyond a certain point. Allow yourself to unravel; you do not have to remain together to the point where you are only hurting yourself by holding everything in.
  • Acknowledge the Pain- Some forms of acknowledgement hurt, and the acknowledgement of lacking self-love is one of many pains. Broken is a deeply rooted feeling, which evolves from tiny portion of us into engulfing and encompassing the person as a whole. When the pain is acknowledged or treated as something small or as nothing, it becomes so much more. If you ignore it, you do a disservice to yourself and your humanness by ignoring that you are hurting and in pain. Tell yourself the truth, acknowledge what is real.
  • Broken Is Not Pretty But Needed- Understand that your journey to reaching a breakthrough of self-love and value is not going to be “pretty”, it will not be something you will be attracted to in the beginning. The lack of self-love or the idea of living yourself has become unfamiliar. When you have journeyed too far and too deep into the dark place where self-love has become scarce or absent in worth, it takes more time and investment to resolve. Sometimes you have to be broken gracefully in the most impressive way.
  • You are Repairable- Do not view yourself as a hopeless tragedy, do not abandon yourself. Broken can be beautiful again, be wise you can evolve from it. Nothing can be exactly the same as it once was but it can be better and more valued.

This area is a start for gaining control of where you are losing yourself and your worth. It is important to unravel and release to replenish yourself. Begin in this phase; loosen at the seams where you are holding on by the threads.

  • Write a letter to yourself, the person you are now, and tell them how you feel.
  • Pray and have a conversation with God, your close inner circle, or even yourself.
  • Meditate and take a pause. (Disengage from distractions for a set moment for yourself).
  • Cry; release the negative energy and emotions inside of you.

After you have finished any or some of these options tell yourself you are going to do better and become better. Speak this into existence, to where you begin to believe it is real. This series and phases of gaining self-love in the most unconditional will be a significant journey. By the end, I hope you will gain the gift of loving yourself with no restraints, no conditions, and no strings attached.

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“The struggle to identify love from destruction is something that blinds us all”
-Nour Tohamy

How we perceive and interpret the world around us plays a vital role in our journey. Our perception determines how we identify through our ideas, morals, beliefs, and interpretations. Nour Tohamy explains the moralistic theme and concepts of her work as, “The exploration of human vulnerability through conceptualism and femininity.” Tohamy encourages through her deep provoking work on the reflection of nature, and how we as humans can engulf the healing and serenity within it. Her inspiration as she quotes, “My travels. Conversations with strangers. Train rides. Strangely shaped leaves. Babies laughing. Abandoned warehouses. Anything and everything.” Tohamy gives an in depth explanation of her conceptualistic perspective in the analysis of art. She shares her beliefs that we are capable of understanding the value of art beyond its colorful layers. Nour Tohamy journeys viewers through strengthening their vision and what captivates the eye.

Brief Background Of Conceptualism

In retrospect to an article presented by Widewalls, “The Conceptual Art Movement is probably the most radical and the most controversial plane in modern and contemporary art. Conceptual art is the dimension of art being an idea or a concept. This art form involves the minimal use of material, in order for viewers and interpreters to embrace the power in “idea”. How do they interpret the work? This concept steers away from the perspective of the artist’s intention. Nour explains the frame of mind and perspective she utilizes to intrigue viewers, draw them in, and allows others to become a part of the vision.

Question: Define “art” in your own format.

Nour: Art for me is the key card to your most raw self and your imprint on the world.

Question: In the interpretation of conceptualism, explain this art form and movement.

Nour: This art form is very open to interpretation. My concepts are never too grounded, so my audience can wonder between stillness/ movement, strength/ weakness, innocence and everything that counteracts it.

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Question: What do you feel are some of the most important aspects of creativity?

Nour: Reflection. Adventure. Don’t spend too much time browsing for ‘inspiration’ on the Internet. I feel like too much of it numbs originality. Spend time outside of your comfort zone (and your house). Explore your potential. Go for a live muse and in fact treat everyone and everything like a muse. All of it has a story and can have an effect on you and your art. Find who you are inside and go for it. And ride horses man! They’re super spiritual and stuff!

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Question: How can a person interpret creativity through the naked eye?

Nour: That is the amazing thing about true creativity; it cannot be forged because it is based solely on your now interpretation and experiences in the world. Every thought and opinion is shaped by a particular life and I feel that once a person can access that uniqueness that they have, it opens up a door or incredibly endless creativity whether it is expressed through art or any other outlet. And once it is released into the world, it could trigger and be part of someone else’s journey of creativity! Behold the wonderful circle of art.

Question: In the interpretation of conceptualism, explain this art form and movement.

Nour: This art form is very open to interpretation. My concepts are never too grounded, so my audience can wonder between stillness/ movement, strength/ weakness, innocence and everything that counteracts it.

Question: Explain the moralistic theme behind your work. What inspires you?

Nour: The moralistic theme of my work could best be described as the exploration of human vulnerability through conceptualism and femininity. Inspiration? My travels. Conversations with strangers. Train rides. Strangely shaped leaves. Babies laughing. Abandoned warehouses. Anything and everything.

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Question: What makes you stand out as an artist?

Nour: What makes me stand out? Nothing fancy, just me being myself. It’s a very cliché concept but it really is very true. There will be no muse more unique and accessible to you than the miles your heart and mind has done.

Nour Tohamy aspires to inspire others on the importance of authenticity. She states, “In my opinion, the most important think an artist can do is being honest and daring. That’s where the art comes out the strongest- from our most desperate states. Tap into them and break into yourself. The art is just a bonus!”

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